Heard from an another old friend!

Just a short post today, but I wanted to share with you what I received today from an old friend. He is a very talented young man who has a bright future, but has some anxiety about making some big decisions.  Here is what he wrote to me.:

…. I’m in a spot in life right now where I’ve got a lot of big decisions to make, and I’m definitely struggling with listening to God instead of to myself and my own desires and wants. I will graduate either in May or December 09, and I just have so many emotions flowing regarding graduation and what to do afterwards that the decision making process has just been a heavy load. I think I’m almost decided, but then it’s a matter of logistics and everything too, which I tend to worry about a bit to much and I don’t trust God to just take care of me as much as I probably should. ….

Ever been there?  I have.  WE spend so much time overanalyzing things based upon fear of them not turning out right.  Here is and excerpt of what I wrote back:

This morning I was in Proverbs 8, so my mind is on wisdom. The word I would have for you is confidence. As long as I have known you, you have been wise, and I have in fact mentioned to many that you were wise beyond your years. God teaches us, instills knowledge and wisdom, and then expects us to make good decisions thus equipped.  Have confidence in that. Don’t make decisions based on fear of it not going right, make them with confidence that God gave you the knowledge and wisdom to make them, and let Him guide the path after that.

Do you feel confident in the wisdom God has given you?  If not — aren’t we wasting it?  So much in life is ruled by lack of confidence or fear.  I would pray that we would live our lives with the knowledge that not only has God given us wisdom, he can show us how to use it! Here was my Bible reading from this morning:

Proverbs 8
Wisdom’s Call

1 Does not wisdom call out?
       Does not understanding raise her voice?

2 On the heights along the way,
       where the paths meet, she takes her stand;

3 beside the gates leading into the city,
       at the entrances, she cries aloud:

4 “To you, O men, I call out;
       I raise my voice to all mankind.

5 You who are simple, gain prudence;
       you who are foolish, gain understanding.

6 Listen, for I have worthy things to say;
       I open my lips to speak what is right.

7 My mouth speaks what is true,
       for my lips detest wickedness.

8 All the words of my mouth are just;
       none of them is crooked or perverse.

9 To the discerning all of them are right;
       they are faultless to those who have knowledge.

10 Choose my instruction instead of silver,
       knowledge rather than choice gold,

11 for wisdom is more precious than rubies,
       and nothing you desire can compare with her.

12 “I, wisdom, dwell together with prudence;
       I possess knowledge and discretion.

13 To fear the LORD is to hate evil;
       I hate pride and arrogance,
       evil behavior and perverse speech.

14 Counsel and sound judgment are mine;
       I have understanding and power.

15 By me kings reign
       and rulers make laws that are just;

16 by me princes govern,
       and all nobles who rule on earth. ^[a]

17 I love those who love me,
       and those who seek me find me.

18 With me are riches and honor,
       enduring wealth and prosperity.

19 My fruit is better than fine gold;
       what I yield surpasses choice silver.

20 I walk in the way of righteousness,
       along the paths of justice,

21 bestowing wealth on those who love me
       and making their treasuries full.

22 “The LORD brought me forth as the first of his works, ^[b] , ^[c]
       before his deeds of old;

23 I was appointed ^[d] from eternity,
       from the beginning, before the world began.

24 When there were no oceans, I was given birth,
       when there were no springs abounding with water;

25 before the mountains were settled in place,
       before the hills, I was given birth,

26 before he made the earth or its fields
       or any of the dust of the world.

27 I was there when he set the heavens in place,
       when he marked out the horizon on the face of the deep,

28 when he established the clouds above
       and fixed securely the fountains of the deep,

29 when he gave the sea its boundary
       so the waters would not overstep his command,
       and when he marked out the foundations of the earth.

30 Then I was the craftsman at his side.
       I was filled with delight day after day,
       rejoicing always in his presence,

31 rejoicing in his whole world
       and delighting in mankind.

32 “Now then, my sons, listen to me;
       blessed are those who keep my ways.

33 Listen to my instruction and be wise;
       do not ignore it.

34 Blessed is the man who listens to me,
       watching daily at my doors,
       waiting at my doorway.

35 For whoever finds me finds life
       and receives favor from the LORD.

36 But whoever fails to find me harms himself;
       all who hate me love death.”

 

It was a nice reminder to me this morning.  I am going to try and move forth into this day with confidence that God is there!

 

The internal battle …

I am sure that many others besides myself have an internal battle (although few will struggle with it).  Not sure what to call it, but it manifests itself in many ways.  Let me explain.

• I know I need to get up early some mornings, but there is this internal struggle against it
• I know I should not eat that extra piece of cake, but I struggle to resist it
• Hmmm, go cut the grass, or go play golf?
• Relax and let my wife cook dinner, or get up and go help?
• Keep that old car that runs well, or go for the shiny new sports car?
• Do I share with this other person my concern for something they are doing, or is it none of my business? (Uh-oh, it’s getting ugly now)
• Do I go tell that person I wronged them, or just hope they won’t find out?
• And so on, and so on …..

I tried to come up with a word for this struggle, but it is tough.  Is it:

Indecision (The inability to decide on a course of action, especially if two or more possibilities exist)?  Doubt (the state of being unsure of something), Or is it possibly just Sin (an act that is regarded as a transgression of God’s will)?

I don’t have an answer here folks, it is a tough call.  I just know this struggle exists, and that it is a battle I have to fight every day.  Things are not very black and white in this realm, nor does the decision apply to all people the same. If you are slim and trim, eating the cake is not a problem, but if you are struggling with weight, it is not good.  I just know that identifying the struggle and how to deal with it is on my heart.  I feel very good about a lot of my decisions, but sometimes I go the wrong way, and that leaves me unsettled.  God provides all we need, right?  Then am I missing something here?  I need him to help me with my decisions (or rather my indecision), but at times I am very confused on which way to go.

Anyway, I am just sharing here, as I said I have no answers, just a question!  How do you deal with this?

 

Talking to God…, when my car broke down.

I don’t think I mentioned yesterday that on our way to our vacation spot, my car broke down.  Well actually it broke down 4 times before we actually arrived at our destination.  Do you hate when that happens?  Then read on.

So get the picture here.  You’re all excited about your vacation, you are only 37 miles from your destination, driving down the interstate at 70mph (okay, maybe 75), and all of a sudden your car decides to just cut off.  Grr. In the middle lane of a three lane highway.  Ouch.  What follows is not exactly what happened, but I want you to imagine what my conversation with God about this may have sounded like.

Uhh, Lord.  My car just quit running. 

Yes Dennis, I am aware of that.

Well, I could use a little help here God.  I mean, surely you do not want us to have this kind of problem, right?

Exactly what is your problem right now Dennis?

Uhh, my car is not running.

I am aware of that, but why is this such a problem?

I don’t think I understand Lord.  This does not look like a problem to you?  I mean, I am sitting on the side of the interstate, it is like 95 degrees outside, we have no AC, our friends have had to pull off the road behind us, and we are going to be late getting to our wonderful condo!  Not to mention the fact that I wanted to at least get a chance to hit a bucket of balls at the driving range this evening before dark!

Well, it seems as though the plan you made is not exactly following the path you laid, is it?  What does this say to you about plans YOU make Dennis?

I guess they are subject to change based upon what you want Lord.  Is this one of those lesson times again?  Is this one of those events you intend to use to grant me wisdom?  I ask only because I have been known to miss your instruction at times.

So are you telling me Dennis that you only listen for my voice SOME of the time?

Uhh, well, you know how it is Lord, I …., I…., well - I guess so.  I’m sorry Lord.  I just get so busy doing what I think I should do.  So I guess you were trying to get my attention then?

I always want your attention Dennis.  I have so many things to teach you, if you will just be still and listen.  It really does not take that much action on your part. As a matter of fact, the less busy you are in your life, the more you will stay in the moment, which is where I am.  So let me ask you some important questions.

Well Lord, I am sitting on the side of the road, with no way to go anywhere, so you have my attention for sure.

Okay.  Do you want to hear from me?  Do you want to move through life with me as your guide?  Do you believe I can guide you every moment?  Do you understand that I do have a plan for what is best for you?  Are you willing to keep your ear tuned to my voice at all times?

Wow.  That’s a lot of questions!  Of course the answer in my heart is YES to all those questions, but in my day to day life it is so easy to step away from you Lord.  I don’t mean to, but it just happens.  How do I stop it?

Don’t overcomplicate it Dennis.  Just make sure you take time during the day to be still.

Oh — you mean like my car is right now?

You got it.  I may occasionally stop you myself.  I use fatigue, spoiled plans, other people, illness, and yes even death at times to speak to you.  Just make that your first response to all events is to be still a moment and listen, and I will instruct you.

Okay Lord.  So can I start my car now?

Sure Dennis, go ahead.

So them my car started.  Amazing.  And it ran for 25 more miles.  Then it stopped again, 3 more times before we got to our destination, but each time I only had to let it rest a few minutes.  I guess God felt we needed to test out what I learned right away.  Each time I stopped that day, I listened attentively, and I heard his voice.  Some of it had nothing to do with my car, I thought about my blessings, how I take things (like running cars) for granted, etc.  My wife and I took the time to chat a bit (always a good thing), and it really did not bother me much at all to be on the side of the road.  Strange…

Is your life a bit like this?  Does God have to stop you occasionally to get your attention?  Do you intentionally look for times to talk with Him outside of a moment of need?  I know I am guilty of that, but am determined to stop more often, just to have a chat. 

Oh, and by the way, my car breaking down was a mere inconvenience, not a problem.  I need to see more things that way, instead of getting upset anytime one of my plans go awry.

Tell me about your conversations with God outside of pleading prayer.  Do you have enough of them?  I hope so …..

 

The coffee is strong, I had a great nights sleep, and God’s word is easy to understand!!

That may be an interesting title, but it is what God brought to mind this morning to really appreciate.  Do you take enough time to be still and be thankful for things?  I know I don’t, and it is a shame to admit I have to be on vacation in Hilton Head to slow down for 5 minutes and appreciate all my blessings.

Anyway, the coffee is some kind of Kenyan blend, and it does actually remind me of times I have been in Kenya in the past, it is very strong!  The condo we are staying at is really nice, and looking out the back window over the balcony is a heavily wooded area looking at a golf course.  Beautiful view, with lots of God things to look at and contemplate.  I slept soundly until 8:30 this morning, which I never do.  Need to get the name of that mattress!  A good start to a good day, but wait — it gets better!

My bible reading this morning was in Proverbs chapter 4 (I am working my way through proverbs for a while, although I may skip around a bit this week)  God brought to mind the phrase, “Actions give results”.  But whoa Dennis…, slow down a bit!  There is so much more in this verse if you will stop and listen to ME:

Prov 4:1 “Listen, my sons, to a father’s instruction;
       pay attention and gain understanding.”

It would be easy to read this and and mainly get from it that listening = understanding, but what about all that is in between those two?  The bible gives us so much more when we pause, open our hearts and minds to God, and think a bit harder.  When I do that on this passage I get so many more points:

• Listening is the first thing I must do (Listen).  Always start there
• God is our father (my sons), and that is a special bond of love
• That I should be listening to the Father (to a father’s).  There are way too many voices in my head sometimes telling me what to do (and no I am not schizo)
• That he has wisdom he offers through instruction (fathers instruction)
• That I need to be intentional in my efforts to hear God (pay attention)
• That wisdom is an increase (gain).  I will benefit from getting it
• What I will gain is understanding (and gain understanding).  Wow.  I so much want to understand more about life, God, me, so on and so on.

Okay, so from just thinking intentionally about what God is telling me, I took that one verse and it was expanded greatly for me.  God is pretty incredible. And reading his Word is easy if I will be intentional!  And to think I used to believe my pastor was so smart getting all those points  :-).

Thank you Father for a bit of understanding this morning that holds a key to so much more understanding!  You know I struggle with being able to apply myself to your Word at times.  Help me to keep these simple points I learned today close to my heart, and expand my understanding every day through your Word.

Amen.

Goodness.  That was only the 1st verse of this chapter.  Do you realize how rich God’s ENTIRE word truly is?  Mind boggling.

 

Time away, and how to use it …

I am on vacation for the next week.  This particular vacation has a different feel to it in that I am feeling pretty free to really enjoy it.  My life for over 6 years has been filled with a constant feeling of responsibility for things in my professional life.  My recent change from working for myself to working a “regular” job has been a very welcome change.  Instead of constantly worrying about a business, client needs, etc., I now have been blessed with a chance to have a true vacation from work, and focus on me and what God has for me next.  So what does that mean to me?  I am going away to a vacation that has lots of free time to spend with family, friends, golf and relaxation.  I have realized that those are not enough for me right now.  I believe that I can do a better job in all those areas if I focus on time with God first.  My pastor Jay has told me of many occasions where he has vacationed, but each day started with a special “away” time with God.  I want to focus on that.  I want to start each and every day with a more focused time spent alone early in the day, simply being.  Being with God, being in the Word and seeing how that guides my thinking, my day, and my walk.  I really do not have a big plan, other than to journal my thoughts.  My only plan thus far is to be alone in the a.m., and be still and listen.  Such a simple plan, but I am waiting expectantly.  I believe that taking that posture has great possibilities.  Submitting my heart to God with no agenda, no specific asks other than asking Him to speak to me.  I am going to do that as much as I can.  I am also going to pick up the phone and call my friend Rob, with whom I have had such a great spiritual connection with in the past, but somehow seem to have lost.  I want to speak with my parents with time to talk.  I want to hear my wife’s heart in conversation with her.  I am going to pick up the phone and call Jay, just to hear what words he has for me.  I am just going to enjoy my family, celebrate what God has done for me in blessing me with family,  friends, and whatever comes to mind.  I am going to ask God what he wants me to do next.

Then I am going to lay out a plan for myself, based upon what words I get from God, friends and family.  Maybe it seems strange to you, but to me it feels like what God wants me to do with my time away.

I am looking forward to it, but mostly I am looking forward to what God will tell me.  Pray for my clarity — PLEASE.

 

MAP International: My new (or is it old?) work home….

  Well, it’s time for a major life change.  I worked for MAP International as the Information Technology Director for 16+ years.  I left to do my own thing, which is where I have been the last 6 years or so.

Well, I am back, as MAP’s new Director Of Business Information Systems (BIS)!  I have been in discussion for a couple of months with MAP since their current director left about the possibility of rejoining the organization.  It was during a couple of conversations with one of MAP’s board members (Thanks Chok-Pin)that I realized I did still have a lot of passion for what MAP was doing, and when I found out all the great work projects that would be there for me, I had to make the change.  I officially started back there on June 3rd, but only on a part time basis to get my hands on what there is to do.  I will be full time on July 1st.

Someone asked last week me how it felt to be back.  My answer?  “Feels like putting on a comfortable pair of old shoes”.  I will miss working with some of the great clients I have had the last 6 years, but am looking forward to the change back to working in a global organization as part of a great team of dedicated Christian people.

Thanks to God for the guidance — he is in this move for me.  Also thanks to those who helped me talk through this possibility.  Nice to know there are supporting people around!

And thanks so much to my wife for supporting this move, she is my partner of partners, and I am indeed a lucky man!

 

Jenny from Subirana

Jenny from Subirana

Originally uploaded by Dennis Rice

On my recent mission trip to Subirana, Honduras, I met a little girl named Jenny. She stole my heart, and I will remeber her for a very long time. Pray for my little friend Jenny, pray that God will give her a rich life. She certainly enriched mine.

 

God was with me today …

(Note — I had prepared this post last September on an airplane, but never did actually publish it.  I just saw it in my drafts folder and felt it was worth posting, so I am publishing it now, 8 months later anyway!)

I am writing this from probably 20-30,000 feet in the air.  I am on vacation, exactly where I want to be right now.  I have been having really great conversation with my wife, which is an absolute joy.

In the world’s eye though, this should not be a happy moment for me.  I should be mad, frustrated and upset.  You see, the journey thus far has not been a joyful one if you look at it from a certain perspective.  We had a 3:30 p.m. flight to Cancun.  We were on our way to 7 days of all inclusive sunny Caribbean happiness.  Sound like fun?  Oh yeah.  I have been looking forward to this for weeks now. 

Bad things tried to happen to us.  Our originating flight was delayed by weather for 2 1/2 hours.  We only had 45 minutes to make our connection in the first place, so it was looking pretty ugly.  Who cares?  My wife and I decided we would be together, exactly where God put us, no matter what physical location that ended up being.  We prayed that God would just give us joy as we watched the frustrated people around us sink into depression.  That was a huge victory for us.  Long story short, we arrived at our connection point and had 6 minutes to make it to our connection. For some reason, that flight had been delayed as well (and was waiting on us), imagine that.  We made the flight.  Thank you Lord.

So now we are on the final leg of our journey, and will arrive at our destination just a couple of hours late, but relaxed and thankful to God not just that we got there, but that we managed to somehow have a God experience, just in the simple process of flying in an airplane.  Is it a miracle?  NO.  It is a God thing, and they happen every day.  I honestly think God honored our attitude, our prayer, and gave us a fun journey while people around us griped and complained.

God things are all around us, and I am so grateful that he has given me a hunger to look for them, even when MY plans seem to go awry.  An even greater joy is that I got to share it with the partner God gave me, and who I love dearly — my wife.  Thank you for her Lord.

As you take your next step, and I mean the VERY next one, look for God.  He’s there — I promise, it is a 100% guaranteed event.  Look for Him, he will make himself visible, and you too will then know the joy of my day today.  That joy comes from knowing that not only was God there, but I saw him.

Thank you Lord.

 

My friend Tito…

I just got back from a mission trip with my church to Honduras, but that is not what this post is about.  When I got back, I had an email from an old friend.  It was a very nice surprise.

Tito was a guy I worked with at MAP International probably at least 10-12 years ago.  Tito and I had this passionate and fiery relationship that I describe as one of my best working relationships ever.  Half the time we laughed and had fun, half of the time we argued voraciously.  Regardless of which it was that day, we walked out of the room passionate about our relationship and with a healthy ability to keep “duking it out”.  The passion we both brought to the table on the projects we worked on was pretty intense.  We did not always agree, but we did agree to disagree pretty well.  As I look back on my now 25 or so year working career, I have had a couple of these relationships, and they are the ones I enjoy the most, mostly because they seemed to stay pretty honest.  If I felt Tito was being an idiot, I told him so and vice versa.  I am ashamed to admit there was one time (okay, may two) that he was probably right.  We had the passion of youth, but lacked the maturity of experience.  But the bottom line was, we respected each others passion, committment and ability to get the job done.

In the last couple of days, Tito and I have had a great exchange of updating info, and it is very nice to see that we have both matured and see things in a different light.  It would be interesting to see how our working relationship would be different considering the life experiences we now posess.  I would be surprised to see that Tito had lost passion, but if he is like me, the things we are passionate about are vastly different than they were years ago.

I am thankful for relationships God has given me in my life, and Tito definitely counts as one of those.  Thanks Tito, for reaching out to me again.  I am sure you are still idotic about a few things, but my ideas could have a few flaws in them still myself… 

 

Living from the inside out …

I drive a lot.  In my day to day job, I spend a lot of time driving from client to client, so I spend a lot of time in my car.  I have found a really great way to spend all of that time.  I have a Zune mp3 player that I download and listen to Podcasts on.  It is a great investment if you have time like that.  I listen to audio books (The Adventures of Tom Sawyer and Huckleberry Finn were my last ones), I listen to different preachers, and I listen to my own pastor’s messages again and again.  I really look forward to it.

One of my favorite podcasts is from Mars Hill church where I hear a lot of Rob Bell.  I was listening to one of his talks yesterday, where he was discussing the “Alter Ego” that people have.  You know what I mean, that public face vs. the private face that only you and God see.  Now this thought and topic is not something new to me, I have heard it many times before, but not presented in a biblical format like Rob did in this talk.  I won’t try and duplicate his thoughts or scriptures exactly here (listen to his podcast, you’ll enjoy it), but he used a passage to look at the true and underlying self, and how addicted we are to feeding it.  These are my thoughts after hearing that message.

I have one — an Alter Ego that is.  There — I said it.  I have this person inside of me that communicates with God on a pure and naked level that knows and understands all my problems, my faults, my pure motives and dreams, but I do not show that whole person to you except in glimpses.  Then I have this outside person who I put on and display to the world because I cannot trust the world to understand and appreciate the person I am on the inside.  It is risky to say this, but it is true nonetheless.  Now please understand I am not trying to be deceitful or misleading, but I do not show you all my innermost self because I am afraid.  I am afraid of you knowing all my weaknesses, faults and motives.  My inner being is sinful and full of pride, it’s motives can be selfish at times, and I have difficulty controlling what it does.  It is a regular wrestling match in there.  I suspect it is the same with you if you are honest.  God knows and understands it though.

So why do I share this with you?  I want to compare the beings in a way that helps us understand our struggles.  When we are truly worshipping God, whether publicly or privately, we open a window to our inner soul and being.  This is where God is, and this is where he can support us in the changes we all desire to make to ourselves, to our inner self.  This is where the raw sin, anger, pain and strife is that we cannot cover up or hide from Him.  I can hide it from you most of the time, but it gets exposed at the most critical times of our lives such as true conviction, the death of a loved one, the collapse of the outer being.  Am I making sense here?  The outer being is but a fragile shell that takes a tremendous amount of effort to keep intact.  Our outer being is not honest and naked before men.  God sees the acts of our outer being, but holds us responsible inside for those acts.  The outer shell at times does reflects what is inside regardless of how hard we try, but there is always that secret inner being.  I believe we all struggle with that.

One of the best ways we can expose this being is to develop relationships that we trust.  Do you have anyone in your life that you can expose you innermost being to?  I find it to be a rare thing that people do, which is a sad thing.  Our spouses or significant others are probably the closest to that, but in essence we are not always truly open with them due to a fear of loss.  So we tend to kind of spread it around a bit.  Some honesty here, some honesty there so that we do not completely overwhelm any one source.  Seeking that person we can share completely with and be open with is important.  It’s brutal to do though.  Hmmm, let’s see — who do I know that would hear any of my innermost thoughts and sins and still not judge me, not tell anyone else, or not endanger some critical component of my life, yet still love me completely?  Wow — tough call.

Let me flip that around a bit.  Are you that person for anyone else?  Think it through before you answer.  Can you sit still and listen to a friend, spouse, etc. and never judge, get upset or angry with them over what they think, have done or feel?  Tough job!  The closer to that person you are, the harder it may even be.  In ministry I have done some one on one listening sessions with some people who are not even a close part of my life, and it is tough to put on that poker face when they let the shocking facts loose sometimes.  I find myself saying, “Jesus — let me hear the heart and not the act” in order to resolve my immediate external reactions.  I have yet however to have one of those sessions without feeling God used me in some way.

So who is the true listener?  Jesus.  Yeah — I know, it sound so oversimplified.  But think about it.  My innermost being can only truly answer to Jesus.  When I am in a position to be the listener, it is Jesus that gives me the strength to do so in a way that allows him to use me as a tool to help.  He’s on both sides of the equation once again bringing about reconciliation to Himself.  Awesome.

I believe that God wants us to be ONE.  I believe he wants our inner and outer self to be a mirror reflection, or better yet that there not be an outer being.  I believe that in Heaven there will be only one being.  He will work with us to achieve that on earth if we learn to trust Him, and to trust those he sends to help us break down that outer being.  He also calls us to be that listener, so look for your opportunities there.  When they come — stop, push yourself aside and listen.

Some people are more successful at being the same inside and out than others.  I think God truly has helped them to be that.  They are the ones you know that seem to have a lot more peace, a lot less strife in their walk.  That doesn’t mean they do not face trouble, it just means they have learned to listen to God and to be open with those he sends to be his helpers.

I am thankful for those in my life that listen.  I am thankful for those in my life that allow me to be a listener.  I pray we all can learn to trust Him and those he sends.

I think I need to go find my friend now.  I have some things I need to share with him.

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